MARRYING MONEY
Ankita Verma, is groom-hunting and her motto is: “Chocolate, coffee and men – some things are better rich.” You must have got the connection. For those who rolled up their eyes looking at heavens for explanation, let me explain. Ankita wants to marry a rich man. Nothing less than rich would do for her.
Now tell her to explain what’s rich and she gets back, “Well, you are rich when nothing seems expensive to you.” She’s looking forward to a lavish married life. She wants to tour the world. Visit all exotic places. Check out all exotic cuisines. Have a jumbo wardrobe. Okay, this can go on and on. Ankita’s list of wishes and riches is endless. So we can move ahead.
After this lowdown, we couldn’t help asking her that if she’s so keen to be rich, why not earn it herself. She says all girls have different kind of ambitions. “Some of my friends are slogging it out to get a good designation in office which will fetch them hefty salaries. I’m slogging it out to find a rich well-settled husband. I’m slogging alright.”
Some of her friends think that this is mean. Even some men feel that way. They say that women should see the person and not his money when getting married. Money may be here today and gone tomorrow. But if the person is efficient enough, money will never leave or even if it does, will come back in no time. It’s the character of the person that should be judged in matters marriage and not his bank balance.
Ankita has a reply to each and every query of people around her. She says that in arranged marriages when families look for a groom for their daughters, they look for a guy who’ll be richer than they are. The whole idea is that their daughter should have a good, comfortable life.
Secondly, she says, that if a person is successful now, that means he is efficient and smart. He’ll take care not to let his money go and if it does somehow, he’ll know how to get it back. She clarifies further that only very few sick men and women are characterless. Others are normal, just like all other men and women. “That said, I must say here that it goes without saying that I’m going to judge my “right rich man’s” character also before I decide,” Ankita says.
Also, she stops by to add, if she were to marry a man not making much money, these same people who are scorning at her now will find that wrong too. There will be comparisons with other women who married richer men and so on. So it’s better not to care about what’s up around you and do what’s on your mind...heart. She says she doesn’t want to end up like those women who keep dreaming about a good life and end up marrying someone who can’t give them that life and then keep cribbing through their lives making their marriages unpleasant.
However, some men also agree that they get immense satisfaction in fulfilling their wife’s and family’s wishes all on their own. Like 30-year-old Sakshya Khanna who says that he would be happy if his wife chooses not to work. It would give him that feeling of joy that he’s capable enough to take care of her financial needs all by himself. But of course he won’t mind if she wants to work.
The gist is that there’s no point scorning at women who aim at marrying money through a rich husband. The problem arises when men and women fail to respect the relationship and each other and money becomes everything.
